Dr. Jane Drew – Psychologist, Therapist, & Marriage Counselor
Sometimes life just doesn’t go the way we planned. We all have circumstances and personal patterns that are challenging – and these patterns show up most readily in our close relationships. Personal issues often show up as anxiety, depression, lack of direction and purpose, issues of self-esteem, perceiving oneself as a victim, and trouble getting into or staying in a relationship.
Individual Therapy
Individual therapy gives you an opportunity to look at your strengths and to understand what really motivates you — your needs and values. Too many of us grew up with guilt and shame. Enough! I know that all of us are doing the best we know how. With compassion and learning options, we can find better ways to meet our needs and to be happy. Depression and anxiety lift when we express what’s been held inside. When you can speak from your heart in a safe place in therapy, then it’s easier to express yourself to others. We all need to learn how to love and accept ourselves more. I’d like to help you to do this.
Anger Management
Anger management works when you understand that anger is a secondary feeling. Anger is a smokescreen for deeper feelings like fear, hurt, and grief. Anger is a tragic attempt to get what you want. Underneath anger’s scary intensity is a longing to be seen. We all have essential human needs for love, understanding, closeness. When we tell someone our wants and needs with humility and openness, our chances of getting what we want increase many times over. It takes courage to let go of “power over” and instead to ask (not demand) the other person to work with you.
Marriage Counseling
Couples get into trouble when they engage is the following: criticism, the need to be right, defensiveness, unrestrained venting, controlling your partner, contempt, retaliation and withdrawal. Couples often get caught in an unconscious “dance” where one partner feels superior (a one-up position) and the other feels less-than (a one-down position).The real problem is that no one can love from being either one-up or one-down. Love only flourishes
when both partners realize they are of equal value and have equal say in the relationship.
The good news is our pain and our needs point to where we can become more conscious and make significant and substantial changes.
Life has it’s challenges, that’s a given. How we deal with those challenges and the attitude we have about them can improve. My job – as I see it – is to help people open their minds and hearts. Then, they can love themselves and others, find their purpose and fulfillment in life, and live primarily in gratitude and joy.
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